Wake wazizwa sengathi ukucindezeleka kuyindlela yempilo yokudlala ngawe?
Umzuzu owodwa, uphatha izinto njengochwepheshe. Okulandelayo, ukhungethwe umugqa wesihloko we-imeyili oqala ngokuthi “Ungakubheka lokhu?”
Ukucindezeleka akupheli—kumane kushintsha imvunulo.
Eminyakeni engu-7 edlule, ngangicindezelekile ngokuthola indlela yokuqalisa ukutshalwa kwezindlu.
Eminyakeni emithathu edlule, kwakumayelana nokukhulisa ibhizinisi lami ngenkathi ngigingqa intaba yezibopho.
Manje? Kumayelana nokwenza amagama alungile ukuze uxhumane nezinkulungwane zabantu, ngethemba lokuthi kuzokwenza umehluko ezimpilweni zabo.
Iqiniso liwukuthi, ukuphila okungenakucindezeleka kuyinganekwane.
Kodwa nazi izindaba ezinhle: ukucindezeleka akusona isitha sakho. Yinkundla yakho yokuqeqesha. Kahle kahle, futhi ungakwazi ukubhekana nanoma yini.
Nazi izindlela eziyisithupha zokukusiza ukuthi uguqule ingcindezi ibe isikhali sakho esiyimfihlo:
Lapho ujaha, yonke into izizwa iphuthumayo—kulapho amaphutha eyenzeka khona.
Ithathe ku-Carl Lewis, owine indondo yegolide yama-Olympics ogijime ngokushesha kakhulu ngomzamo ongu-85%.
Iqhinga eliphikisayo? Yehlisa ijubane ukuze usheshise.
Nansi indlela:
Hlukanisa umjikelezo: Uma uzizwa uphuthuma, yima kancane kancane noma kabili.
Setha amagxathu wamabomu: Qala ngokuwina okuncane—gxila ekuqedeni umsebenzi owodwa ngesikhathi esikhundleni sokuzenza izinto eziningi ukhohlwe.
I-Anchor enemisho egxilile: Phinda amazwibela njengokuthi "ukunensa kushelela, ukushelela kuyashesha" lapho uzithola uthukile.
Umhlaba ngeke uphele uma uthatha isikhashana ukuhlanganisa kabusha.
Ukucindezeleka kuthumba isimiso sakho sezinzwa, kodwa umoya wakho ungabuyisela ukulawula.
Nawa amasu amabili ososayensi bezinzwa abafunga ngawo:
I-Physiological Sigh: Ukuhogela okubili okusheshayo ngekhala lakho, kulandelwa i-exhale eyodwa omude ngomlomo wakho. Yenza lokhu kathathu ukuze uthulise imizwa yakho ngaphansi komzuzu.
4-7-8 Indlela: Phefumula imizuzwana emi-4, ubambe imizuzwana eyi-7, ukhiphe imizuzwana eyi-8. Le nqubo ingathuthukisa ngisho nokulala uma yenziwa ngaphambi kokulala.
Lawa akuwona nje amaqhinga “woo-woo”. Basebenza ngoba bagqekeza uhlelo lwakho lwezinzwa lwe-parasympathetic, olunesibopho sokuthobisa umzimba wakho.
Ithiphu Yochwepheshe: Bhangqa lokhu nomsebenzi osuvele uwenza nsuku zonke—njengokuxubha amazinyo noma ukuhlala kuthrafikhi—ukuze kube imvelo yesibili.
Ingqondo yakho ayiyona iyunithi yokugcina yakho konke ukukhathazeka, uhlu lwezinto okufanele uzenze, noma umcabango ongenele.
Ikhiphe ekhanda lakho uyibeke ephepheni.
Zama lokhu:
Amakhasi Asekuseni ( nguJulia Cameron ): Chitha imizuzu engama-20 njalo ekuseni ubhala ukusakazwa kokwazi. Ungahlungi noma uhlele—vele uyikhiphe.
Uhlu Lokulahla Ukucindezeleka: Ngaphambi kokulala, bhala phansi konke okukukhathazayo engqondweni yakho. Bese, hlela izinto ngokuphuthuma. Ngokuvamile, uzothola ukuthi iningi alikho kabi njengoba lizizwa.
Kungani kusebenza: Ukubhala kuphoqa ukucaca. Awukwazi ukubhekana nokukhathazeka okungenangqondo, kodwa ungakwazi ukuxazulula inkinga yekhonkrithi.
Masingakugcobi: ubuchopho bakho buyinjini, futhi ukucindezeleka ukukhanya okubomvu okuyisixwayiso.
Nansi indlela yokuyishuna:
Ukulala: Beka kuqala amahora angama-7-8. Ukucindezeleka kuzwakala kubi kakhulu izikhathi ezingu-10 uma ungalali kahle.
IHydrate: Ngisho nokuphelelwa amanzi emzimbeni okuncane kungakhuphula amazinga e-cortisol.
Hambisa: Ukuzivocavoca kuyikhodi yokukhohlisa yokunciphisa amahomoni okucindezeleka. Ngisho nokuhamba imizuzu engu-10 kungenza izimanga.
Umsoco: Nciphisa ushukela kanye nodoti ogayiwe. Engeza ukudla okunothe nge-magnesium njengesipinashi, ama-alimondi, noshokoledi omnyama.
I-Screen Detox: Nciphisa inkundla yezokuxhumana kanye nokuskrola kwe-doom. Setha izibali sikhathi zohlelo lokusebenza noma ushintshele kumodi ye-grayscale ukuze unqande ukusetshenziswa ngokweqile.
Ithiphu Lochwepheshe: Phatha ubuchopho bakho njengemoto ebizayo. Ubungeke uwufake uphethiloli ongafuneki kuFerrari—ngakho kungani uzenzela wena?
Uma uguqe ngamadolo ekucindezelekeni, yonke inkinga encane izwakala njengokuphela komhlaba.
Kodwa nawu umbuzo ongakongela amahora wokucabanga ngokweqile:
"Ingabe lokhu kuzobaluleka eminyakeni emi-5?"
Uma impendulo ithi cha, ungayiniki ngaphezu kwemizuzu emi-5 yamandla akho.
Nakhu okunye:
Umbono awukona nje ukunciphisa ukucindezeleka-umayelana nokuzikhumbuza ukuthi yini ebaluleke ngempela.
Ingqondo yakho ihlezi ilalele lokho okushoyo kuwena.
Shintsha ulimi lwakho, futhi ushintshe indlela ozizwa ngayo.
Zama lezi zakhiwo kabusha:
Ngithukile → Ngijabulile: Indlela osabela ngayo ekucindezelekeni komzimba wakho icishe ifane nesasasa. Ngokuzayo uma “uthukile,” zitshele ukuthi “uyapompa.”
Ukwehluleka → Impendulo: Awehlulekanga; wafunda. Futhi ukufunda kuyinqubekelaphambili.
Kufanele → Ifike kokuthi: Shifta kwisibopho uye ethubeni. ("Ngiqala ukubhala le imeyili" ishaya ngendlela ehlukile kunethi "Kufanele ngibhale le imeyili.")
Ithiphu Yochwepheshe: Gcina uhlu lwamafreyimu kabusha kufoni yakho. Zisebenzise lapho ukukhuluma kabi ngawe kuqala ukuvunguza.
Ukulawula ingcindezi akusona nje “ingilazi ephukile uma kunesimo esiphuthumayo”.
Nansi indlela yokwakha isimiso sansuku zonke sokuzivikela ekucindezelekeni:
Ukusetha kabusha kwasekuseni: Qala usuku lwakho ngemizuzu emi-5 yokuphefumula okujulile noma ukubhala ijenali.
Ukungena Kwasemini: Thatha ikhefu lemizuzu engu-10 ukuze ulule, uhambe, noma uhlale uthule.
Umoya Wakusihlwa Wakusihlwa: Bhala uhlu lwakusasa futhi uphethe usuku ngokubonga.
Kucabange njengokugcina ukuvikela impilo yakho yengqondo.
Ukucindezeleka akusho ukuthi uyehluleka. Kusho ukuthi uyazama.
Kodwa nansi into: akumele udlule kukho wedwa.
Cela usizo lapho uludinga.
Sebenzisa lezi zindlela ukuze ususe umkhawulo.
Futhi khumbula: Yonke inselele obhekene nayo ikucijela elandelayo .
Amagagasi ngeke ame, kodwa ungafunda ukuntweza njengochwepheshe.
Kuze kube ngokuzayo,
UBen