Ever been in a conversation where you felt like your brain was melting?
You know the kind. You’re making a point — calmly, rationally, maybe even with a dash of charm — and suddenly you’re drowning in a tidal wave of nonsense.
Personal attacks.
Wild conclusions.
The type of logic that makes you wonder if the other person recently suffered a head injury.
It’s infuriating. It makes you want to flip a table and scream:
But here’s the thing: Sometimes you can’t avoid these people. Maybe it’s your boss. Maybe it’s a relative you only see at holidays.
Maybe it’s the guy in line at the grocery store who thinks he’s the second coming of Aristotle because he read one headline on Facebook.
For these moments, you need tools. Not to “win” the argument — because half the time, winning just means wasting more energy — but to keep your sanity and not lose faith in the species.
Here are 8 of the sneakiest logic traps people use and how to dismantle them without losing your mind (or your soul).
The Classic Cheap Shot.
Instead of debating your point, they debate you. Because why confront a real argument when they can take a swing at your character?
Example: You: “I think this company should adopt more sustainable practices. ”Them: “Oh, coming from the guy who still drives a gas guzzler?”
Counter: “Me driving a gas guzzler doesn’t change the fact that sustainability is important. Maybe let’s focus on the idea instead of my car.”
Translation: Stop making this about me. My hypocrisy (real or imagined) doesn’t make your argument better.
Building a Scarecrow, Then Setting It on Fire.
This is when someone takes what you said, twists it into a ridiculous caricature, and then torches that nonsense instead of your actual point.
Example: You: “I think remote work has its benefits. ”Them: “So you just want everyone to sit at home in pajamas and never talk to another human again?”
Counter: “I didn’t say that. Remote work doesn’t mean social isolation. It means flexibility. Two very different things.”
Translation: Don’t shove words in my mouth and then pretend you’re the hero for chewing them up.
The “Everything Will Collapse” Argument.
One small change, and suddenly we’re tumbling into the apocalypse. Because why deal with nuance when you can predict doom?
Example: You: “We should allow flexible work hours. ”Them: “Yeah, and next thing you know, no one will work at all, and society will crumble.”
Counter: “Flexible hours don’t mean people stop working. It means they work smarter. Let’s not jump to Mad Max conclusions.”
Translation: Calm down, Nostradamus. One step forward doesn’t always lead to a cliff.
If Everyone Else Jumped Off a Bridge…
This one’s like peer pressure in argument form. Just because everyone believes it doesn’t make it true.
Example: Them: “Everyone I know says this diet works, so it must be good for you.”
Counter: “A bunch of people believing something doesn’t make it true. Everyone used to think the Earth was flat too.”
Translation: Popularity is a terrible judge of truth. Ask any middle school kid.
Because the “Expert” Said So.
Dragging in a big name who has zero relevance to the topic.
Example: Them: “My yoga instructor says this is the best investment strategy.”
Counter: “Your yoga instructor might know how to do a perfect downward dog, but I don’t think they’re Warren Buffett.”
Translation: Cool story. Now let’s hear from someone who knows what they’re talking about.
Pick a Side. There Are Only Two.
This is when they boil a complex issue down to two extreme choices. It’s lazy thinking disguised as decisiveness.
Example: Them: “You’re either a cat person or a dog person.”
Counter: “Or — hear me out — I can like both. Or neither. Because life isn’t a Disney movie.”
Translation: There’s more than one flavor of ice cream. Stop making me choose between vanilla and vanilla.
Look Over There!
They throw in something completely irrelevant to distract you from the actual topic. It’s the argument equivalent of a toddler pointing at a shiny object.
Example: You: “I think the camera quality on this phone isn’t great. ”Them: “Yeah, but feel how sleek the design is!”
Counter: “The design is nice, but we’re talking about the camera. Stay with me here.”
Translation: Stop trying to change the subject. I’m not that easy to distract.
Two Things Happened, So They Must Be Related.
Just because two things happen together doesn’t mean one caused the other. Correlation is not causation.
Example: Them: “Every time I wear this shirt, my team wins. It’s my lucky shirt!”
Counter: “Or maybe your team is just good at sports. Your shirt isn’t part of the lineup.”
Translation: Coincidences happen. Your shirt is not magic. Sorry.
Stay Calm: Getting emotional is like handing them a free pass to dismiss you. Breathe. Channel your inner stoic.
Listen Hard: Make sure you actually understand what they’re saying before you respond. Misunderstanding them gives them ammo.
Be Prepared: Know these fallacies like the back of your hand. The more you spot them, the less they’ll trip you up.
Keep It Simple: Clear arguments win. Complexity is just noise.
Bonus Tip: If the conversation is going nowhere and your sanity is at stake, walk away.
NOE ONE ever looked back on their life and thought, “I wish I argued with more idiots.”
These tools won’t just help you in arguments. They’ll help you avoid the pointless ones.
And in a world where arguing online is practically a hobby, that’s a superpower.
So go forth, defend your sanity, and maybe — just maybe — help create a world where people think before they speak.
Or not. At least you’ll be smarter.
Until next time✌️
Ben.