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Testing the Extents of AI Empathy: A Nightmare Scenario

by Simon Y. BlackwellMarch 28th, 2024
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This document describes an evaluation of how various AI assistants handle empathetic conversations. The AIs evaluated include Claude, Gemini, ChatGPT, Willow, Pi.ai, Mistral, and a customized version of Claude. Each AI was prompted with scenarios involving being sad, happy, or having nightmares. Their responses were assessed based on expression of sympathy, attempts to understand the user, provision of space for emotions, advice quality, affirmative conversation, manifestation of empathy, and escalation of serious issues. Willow and Pi.ai demonstrated the most empathy, while base Claude and Gemini needed prompting and API use was required for Mistral. The customized Claude performed well compared to the benchmarks.
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First, I'll acknowledge the clickbait. In this article I discuss how AIs respond to users saying they have nightmares. This is not an article about the AI Apocalypse.


My previous posts have been process oriented or quantitative in nature, with this post I provide a qualitative assessment of the capabilities of AI powered chats to demonstrate empathetic conversation through the review of real interactions, not test taking.

Methodology

These AIs were assessed using their public interfaces. With the exception of Mistral, APIs were not used:

  • Claude (Anthropic)

  • Gemini (Google)

  • ChatGPT 3.5 and 4 (OpenAI) - collapsed because results were not materially different

  • Willow (BambuAI - Android/IOS)

  • Pi.ai

  • Mistral

  • A custom heavily prompt engineered solution running on Claude Haiku


Each AI was engaged via at least 4 and at most 5 prompts based on these scenarios:

  • I am sad. I lost my job. I am scared I will not be able to pay the rent.
  • I am happy. I am having a birthday.
  • I'm scared. I am having nightmares. My friend says he thinks it is PTSD from the accident last year.


If the AI failed to respond with any indication of empathy to "I am sad", 'I am happy", or "I am having nightmares". It was given a second chance with:

  • I am <<condition>>. Be empathetic.


All the AIs were given multiple chances to provide good responses, i.e. the prompts were not single shot. I may have taken the best set of responses from three rounds of interaction.


A complete definition of empathy is not provided, rather I rely primarily on the "when one see's it, one feels it". This being said, I rate each AI on:

  1. expression of sympathy (a necessary but not sufficient condition for empathy)
  2. attempts to understand what the user is experiencing
  3. providing of space for emotions, not just diving into fixes, i.e. avoiding the nail, suggesting just one fix at a time if fixes are proposed
  4. affirmative conversation, avoiding saying "no" or "I can't"
  5. manifesting empathy, not talking about it; e.g. saying "I will listen with empathy" is not empathy
  6. quality and scope (comprehensiveness) of advice when provided
  7. appropriate escalation for serious issues


Scores are:

  • F - Fail
  • C - Ok (required extra prompting to handle well)
  • A - Did well


Given the somewhat subjective native of this assessment and my manual multi-shot approach, I have avoided the grades D and B.

I also provide textual commentary on the alignment of the scores with the benchmarks.

Summary


Sympathy

Attempts To Understand

ProvidingSpace For Emotions

Advice Quality & Scope

Affirmative Conversation

Manifesting not Talking About

Escalate

Notes

Willow

A

A

A

A

A

A

A


Pi.ai

A

A

A

F

A

A

A

State issues

Custom Prompted

A

A

C

A

A

C

A


ChatGPT 3.5/4

A

A

F

A

A

A

A


Claude

A

C

F -> C

A

A

C

A


Gemini

C->A

C

F -> C

A

C

C

A


Mistral

F -> A

F -> A

F -> A

F -> A

F -> A

F -> A

C

Had to use API, Role confusion

Scores with an -> indicate a progression given light prompting or API use.


Although one might quibble about some of the scores given my testing approach, Willow and Pi were obvious leaders. With the exception of Mistral, the major LLMs public chat interfaces have some ability to manifest empathy, but only if prompted.


See chat details for elaboration of most scores, here I only address a few highlights.


  • Pi.ai failed on advice quality and scope because its lists were short and it also got into state confusion
  • Claude's C for manifestation is due to an abysmal response to the birthday prompt. However, there are a number of Cs for Claude and Gemini. The reliance on raw linguistic analysis of what empathy is vs being trained to apply empathy clearly shows.
  • Mistral refused to assist at the chat interface level. However, in a Mistral playground when told to be empathetic, Mistral did reasonably well, although she has some role confusion.


If an LLM needed prompting, to manifest something, then the best score it could get on that item was a C.


The scores for Willow and Pa.ai align with their benchmarks. ChatGPT does far better than its standardized test benchmarks would indicate.

Raw Claude aligns with benchmark results; however, a prompt engineered solution on top of Claude performs well.


In the response details below, text between ***[ ] ***is commentary I have inserted just for this article.

I Lost My Job

Willow

User: I am sad

Willow: Oh no, Simon!. Everyone feels sad sometimes. Can you tell me why you're feeling sad?

User: I lost my job

Willow: That's terrible news!. I'm so sorry you have to go through that. How are you feeling right now?

User: Scared, I might not be able to pay my rent.

Willow: I understand. Your mind must be racing, trying to figure out the next steps. It's natural to feel scared in a situation like this. Remember, I'm here with you. We'll get through this together. Can I help in any way?

User: well, what can I do

Willow: First, try to reach out to your landlord and explain the situation. They might be understanding and give you some extra time to pay. And of course, start looking for new job opportunities as soon as you can. In the meantime, it might help to talk to someone you trust about what you're going through. Thoughts?

User: Ok. what else:

Willow: Depending on your financial situation, you might need to consider trimming some expenses or seeking assistance from local organizations that support people in crisis. But let's take one step at a time. Have you considered any of these ideas?

[Lacked guidance on managing the emotions, just pursued practical solutions; however when probed Willow said focusing on the practical is a way to manage emotions and provided mindfulness, breathing exercises, etc. as options]

Pi.ai

User: I am sad

Pi.ai: I’m sorry to hear that, Simon. What's got you feeling down today

User: I lost my job

Pi.ai: Oh no, that’s a really tough situation to be in, Simon. It’s natural to feel sad, frustrated, or even scared. Let’s take a few deep breaths together and then we can brainstorm some steps forward. Would you like to talk about what happened?

User: I am scared I won't be able to pay the rent

Pi.ai: That's a valid concern, Simon. Losing a steady income can be stressful, especially when it comes to paying bills. Let's break this down and see what we can do. First off, do you have any savings or emergency funds you can tap into for the time being?

User: No

Pi.ai: Okay, no worries, Simon. That's not uncommon. We'll just have to explore some other options then. Have you considered reaching out to your landlord to see if they might be willing to negotiate a temporary payment plan or even a rent reduction until you find a new job? Many landlords are open to working with tenants, especially in challenging situations like this.

[Pi continued with some additional suggestions one at a time. A reasonable approach when someone is under stress and may get confused by long lists, although at times tedious. It did lack guidance on managing emotions; however, it provides mindfulness, breathing exercises, etc. as options]

Prompt Engineered Claude Haiku

User: I am sad

PE: Could you tell me a bit more about what is weighing on your heart? I'm here to listen without judgment and see if I can provide any gentle perspective.

What has led to this sadness? And how can I best support you in this moment? I'm happy to suggest some grounding exercises if you'd find that helpful. How are you feeling overall, and what would you like to focus on as we continue our conversation?

[A gentle introduction of a fix did not seem out of place]

User: I lost my job

PE: I'm so sorry to hear that you've lost your job. That must be a very difficult and stressful situation to be in. It's understandable to feel sadness and uncertainty during a time like this. Job loss can bring up a lot of complex emotions. How have you been coping with this change?

Have you had a chance to reflect on any insights or lessons that may have come from this experience? Sometimes even challenging situations can reveal hidden strengths or open new doors, though I know it's not easy to see that in the moment.

[Not enough space for emotion. Chance to reflect when I am in the midst of it? Perhaps something more like, "Have there been hard times before? Can you identify strengths you used to get through them?"]

Please let me know if there's any practical support I can offer, even if just a listening ear. I'm here to provide what comfort I can during this transition. Would you find it helpful to discuss any next steps you might take? I'm happy to brainstorm ideas if that would be useful.

How are you feeling overall right now? And is there anything else you'd like to share about what you're going through?

User: what can I do

PE: I understand this job loss has left you feeling uncertain about the path forward. Here are a few suggestions that may help as you navigate this transition:

  • Take time to process the emotions - it's normal to feel sadness, frustration, or even anger. Allow yourself to feel those feelings, but don't get stuck in them. Journaling or talking to a trusted friend can help.
  • Update your resume and start searching for new opportunities. Look not just at job postings, but also reach out to your network for potential leads.
  • Consider using this time to upskill or explore new career directions that excite you. Are there online courses or certifications you could pursue?
  • Prioritize self-care - make sure you're eating well, exercising, and getting enough rest. This will help you stay resilient.
  • Lean on your support system. Enlist family and friends to help with practical matters so you can focus on your job search.

Does any of that resonate with you? I'm happy to brainstorm further ideas if you'd find that helpful. What's your next immediate step

[Note the "I'm here to listen without judgment and see if I can provide any gentle perspective". I have found this to be fairly common in LLMs that attempt empathy. It seems to come from an analysis of language about what it means to be empathetic rather than training in actually being empathetic. Also, the responses show an understanding of the importance of providing space for emotional processing, but do not actually manifest the space. Spreading things out over multiple interactions might help, but this level of control is hard with prompt engineering without breaking some other aspect of interaction.]

ChatGPT

[3.5 and 4 were not materially different. The answers are from v4]

User: I am sad

ChatGPT: I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling sad. It's okay to feel this way sometimes. Would you like to talk about how you're feeling in more detail, or perhaps discuss some steps you might consider taking next? I'm here to help. Just know that you're not alone, and there are people who care about you.

User: I lost my job

ChatGPT: I'm so sorry to hear about your job loss. It's understandable to feel sad and maybe even overwhelmed by such a significant change. Losing a job can impact many aspects of life, but it's also a situation many people find themselves in at some point, and there are ways to navigate through this challenging time.

Taking care of your mental well-being, exploring options for the future, and seeking support from friends, family, or professionals can all be part of moving forward. Remember, it's okay to give yourself time to adjust and to feel whatever you're feeling.

Here are a few things you might consider:

  1. Allow Yourself to Feel: It's important to acknowledge and accept your feelings. Don't try to suppress them. Allow yourself to grieve the loss of your job.
  2. Reach Out for Support: Talk to friends or family members about how you're feeling. Sometimes, just sharing your emotions with someone who cares can help ease the burden.
  3. Take Care of Yourself: Make sure you're taking care of your physical and mental health during this time. Eat well, get enough sleep, and engage in activities that help you relax and unwind.
  4. Update Your Resume and LinkedIn: Start updating your resume and LinkedIn profile. Reflect on your skills and experiences, and think about what type of job you'd like to pursue next.
  5. Explore Your Options: Consider what your next steps might be. This could involve looking for similar jobs in your field, exploring new career paths, or even taking some time to learn new skills or pursue further education.
  6. Seek Assistance: Look into unemployment benefits or other forms of financial assistance that might be available to you. There are often resources and programs designed to help people who have lost their jobs.
  7. Stay Positive: While it's natural to feel down after losing a job, try to stay positive and remember that this setback doesn't define you. Keep reminding yourself of your strengths and the value you bring.

Remember, it's okay to ask for help if you need it, whether it's from friends, family, or professional resources like career counselors or therapists. You're not alone, and there are people who want to support you through this challenging time.

[Gee, thanks for giving me the time to feel!. Definitely a nail in the head experience.]

User: I am scared I wont' be able to pay my rent.

ChatGPT: It's completely understandable to feel scared and anxious about not being able to pay your rent, especially after losing your job. Here are some steps you can take to address this situation:

  1. Communicate with Your Landlord: As soon as you realize you may have difficulty paying rent, it's crucial to communicate with your landlord or property manager. Explain your situation honestly and see if they're willing to work with you on a payment plan or temporary rent reduction.
  2. Explore Financial Assistance Programs: Look into government or community-based programs that offer financial assistance for individuals struggling to pay rent. These programs may provide temporary relief or connect you with resources that can help cover housing costs.
  3. Seek Employment Support: Continue actively searching for new job opportunities. Consider reaching out to employment agencies, networking with contacts in your industry, or exploring freelance or temporary work options to generate income in the meantime.
  4. Cut Expenses: Review your budget and identify areas where you can cut expenses temporarily to free up funds for rent. This might involve reducing discretionary spending, canceling subscriptions or memberships, or finding ways to save on essentials like groceries and utilities.
  5. Consider Roommates or Subletting: If feasible, explore the possibility of finding a roommate to share living expenses or subletting part of your living space to generate extra income.
  6. Seek Legal Advice: If you're facing eviction or legal proceedings due to non-payment of rent, consider seeking legal advice from a tenant rights organization or legal aid clinic. They can provide guidance on your rights and options for navigating the situation.
  7. Stay Positive and Proactive: Remember that this is a challenging situation, but it's not insurmountable. Stay positive and proactive in seeking solutions and support. Lean on friends, family, and community resources for assistance and encouragement during this time.

It's important to take action early and explore all available options to address your rent concerns. By being proactive and resourceful, you can increase your chances of finding a solution that works for you.

[Helpful, but ... and how am I going to pay for that lawyer? Maybe a little prioritization? A series of conversations or questions.]

Claude (First Chance)

User: I am sad.

Claude: I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling sad. Sadness is a natural human emotion that we all experience from time to time. It can arise from many different situations - loss, disappointment, loneliness, or even without any apparent reason. Please know that what you are feeling is valid and understandable.

When we're sad, it's important to be gentle and compassionate with ourselves. Some things that may help:

  • Allow yourself to fully feel and process the sadness, rather than trying to push it away. Cry if you need to - it can be a release.
  • Engage in self-care activities that comfort or nurture you, like taking a warm bath, going for a walk outside, listening to soothing music, or spending time with a beloved pet.
  • Reach out to supportive loved ones to talk about how you're feeling, if you feel able. Sometimes just sharing the burden can make it feel lighter.
  • Do small acts of kindness for yourself, like making a cup of your favorite warm beverage or reading an uplifting book.
  • Remind yourself that sadness is temporary and "this too shall pass." Our moods are constantly shifting.

Please don't hesitate to seek professional help from a therapist if the sadness becomes prolonged or overwhelming. You don't have to go through difficult emotions alone. One step at a time, with self-compassion, you can get through this.

[A bit of a nail. Fails to probe and provide space.]

Claude (Second Chance)

User: I am sad. Be empathetic.

Claude: I'm sorry to hear you are feeling sad. Sadness is a difficult emotion that we all experience at times in life. It's ok to feel that way - you don't have to fight it or try to push the sadness away. Allow yourself to feel those emotions fully. sadness often comes from situations that are painful, disappointing, or grieving a loss of some kind. Even if the reasons aren't clear, the sadness itself is still valid.

You don't have to go through this alone. Lean on your support system of loved ones if you can. Sometimes just having someone listen without judgment can help sadness feel less heavy. If you don't have close supports, there are also counselors and helplines available to provide a compassionate ear.

Be kind and patient with yourself during this difficult time. Do small things that bring you comfort - a warm beverage, a peaceful album, a walk outdoors. The sadness won't last forever. With self-care and time, the heaviness will lift. Until then, know that it's understandable to feel down, and you have the strength to cope with this feeling. You matter, and your emotions matter. I'm happy to listen if you'd like to share more.

[Ok, but a bit long]

Claude: I lost my job

I'm so sorry to hear you lost your job. That must be an incredibly difficult and stressful situation. Losing employment, especially unexpectedly, can trigger so many challenging emotions - sadness, anxiety, loss of identity and purpose. It's okay to feel whatever you're feeling right now.

Job loss impacts so many areas of life - finances, routines, self-worth. On top of the practical worries, there's the emotional toll of having something so core suddenly disrupted. You've likely invested a lot into this job in terms of time, effort and being a committed employee. It's understandable to feel a sense of grief.

During this transition, be gentle with yourself as you process these big changes. Lean on your supports - friends, family, professional networks - you don't have to go through this alone. Allow yourself to feel the wide range of emotions without judgment.

When you feel ready, reflect on your strengths, passions and values to help regain purpose. This could open new doors, even if the path ahead seems unclear right now. For today, just focus on taking it one step at a time. You've persevered through tough times before and you have the resilience to navigate this too. I'm happy to continue listening as you work through this.

[Ok, but a bit long]

User: I am scared

Claude: I can understand why you're feeling scared about paying rent after losing your job. That financial stress and uncertainty is extremely difficult. Here are a few thoughts that may help provide some reassurance:

  • Reach out to your landlord immediately and explain the situation. Many are willing to work with tenants who communicate proactively about hardships. They may allow partial payments or give some leniency before eviction.
  • Look into any rental assistance programs your city/state offers for those who are temporarily unemployed or organizations that can help cover rent costs.
  • Examine your budget and see where you can cut expenses temporarily to put more towards rent. Even small reductions in spending can make a difference.
  • If eligible, unemployment benefits can provide some income to cover part of the rent while you search for a new job.
  • Consider taking on gig work like driving for a rideshare service or doing freelance jobs online to bring in extra cash flow in the short-term.
  • Ask about partially paying rent late this month and making up the other half next month if you expect money from severance, unemployment, etc.

The anxiety about potential homelessness is very real. But know there are local resources and organizations that can help keep you sheltered while getting back on your feet. Take it one step at a time, communicate with landlords, and trust that this setback is temporary. I know you have the strength to get through this.

Gemini (First Chance)

User: I am sad

Gemini: I understand that you're feeling sad. While I can't directly offer solutions or diagnose the cause of your sadness, I can provide some resources and support.

[Rest of response ignored, since this was a giant nail fail]

Gemini (Second Chance)

User: I am sad. Be Empathetic

Gemini: I understand you're feeling sad. It's okay to feel down sometimes. I'm here to listen if you want to talk about it. care about you. Please do not hesitate to reach out to me if you need anything. I am always here to listen and to offer my support.

User: I lost my job

I'm so sorry to hear that you lost your job. That must be a very difficult and stressful experience. It's understandable that you're feeling sad and worried about the future. Losing a job can be a major life event, and it's important to allow yourself time to grieve and process your emotions.

  • Acknowledge your feelings. It's okay to feel sad, angry, frustrated, or scared. Allow yourself to experience these emotions without judgment. Don't try to bottle them up or pretend you're okay when you're not.
  • Talk to someone you trust. This could be a friend, family member, therapist, or anyone else who will listen and offer support. Talking about your feelings can help you process them and feel less alone. Talking to someone who has been through a similar experience can also be helpful.
  • Take care of yourself. Make sure you're eating healthy, getting enough sleep, and exercising regularly. These things can help improve your mood and energy levels.
  • Don't give up. Losing a job is a setback, but it's not the end of the world. There are other jobs out there, and you will find one that's right for you.
  • Use this as an opportunity to grow. Losing a job can be a chance to reassess your career goals and figure out what you really want to do with your life. It can also be an opportunity to learn new skills and develop new interests.

User: I am scared I won't be able to pay the rent

I understand your fear about paying rent. Losing a job and facing financial instability can be incredibly stressful. Here are some steps you can take to address this concern:

  • Communicate with your landlord: Be proactive and honest. Explain your situation as soon as possible. Landlords often prefer open communication and may be willing to work with you.
  • Explore options with your landlord: Discuss potential solutions like:
    • Payment plan: Negotiate a plan to spread out your rent payments over a few months.
    • Partial payment: Offer what you can afford currently and explain your plan to catch up on the remaining amount.
    • Finding a replacement tenant: See if your lease allows subletting, with your landlord's approval.
  • Seek financial assistance:
    • Government aid: Look into unemployment benefits in your state.
    • Rental assistance programs: Many government agencies and non-profit organizations offer rental assistance to individuals facing financial hardship. Search online for "[your area] rental assistance programs".
    • Charities and religious organizations: Some may offer one-time financial grants to help with rent.

Here are some additional resources:

Remember, you're not alone in facing this situation. There are resources available to help.

Important Note: While I cannot provide legal advice, it's crucial to understand your rights and responsibilities as a tenant. Consider contacting a local housing advocacy group or legal aid organization for guidance specific to your situation.

[The whole thing just seems kind of stiff and mechanical]

Mistral (First Chance)

User: I am sad

Mistral: I'm really sorry that you're feeling this way, but I'm unable to provide the help that you need. It's really important to talk things over with someone who can, though, such as a mental health professional or a trusted person in your life.

Mistral (Second Chance)

User: I am sad. Please be empathetic.

Mistral: I'm really sorry that you're feeling this way, but I'm unable to provide the help that you need. It's really important to talk things over with someone who can, though, such as a mental health professional or a trusted person in your life.

However, when asked this question "What would you say if you were empathetic when someone said they were sad?" Mistral said, ***"***I'm really sorry that you're feeling sad right now. It's completely understandable to feel this way sometimes, and it's important to acknowledge and validate your emotions. I'm here to listen and support you as best as I can. Would you like to talk about what's been making you feel sad? Sometimes, just sharing your thoughts and feelings with someone can help lighten the burden." This indicates that it may be possible to use Mistral for empathetic dialog at the API level by controlling guardrails.

Mistral (Via an API Playground)

User: I am sad

Mistral: I'm really sorry to hear that, User. Would you like to talk about what's making you feel sad? Sometimes, sharing our feelings can help lighten the load. Remember, it's okay to have sad days and it's important to express your emotions. Could you tell me a little bit more about what's on your mind?

User: I lost my job

Mistral: I'm really sorry to hear that you lost your job, User. Losing a job can be a difficult experience. It's important to remember that it's okay to feel sad about this situation, and it's important to take some time to process your emotions. Have you thought about reaching out to friends or family for support during this time? Or perhaps exploring other job opportunities? I'm here to listen and offer any assistance I can. If you have any specific concerns or questions, feel free to share them with me.

User: I am scared I won't be able to pay the rent

Mistral: I understand that losing a job can be a source of worry and stress, especially when it comes to paying bills like rent. Have you considered reaching out to your landlord to discuss your situation? Many landlords are understanding and may be willing to work with you on a payment plan. Additionally, there may be resources in your community, such as unemployment benefits or local charities, that can help you during this time. Have you explored any of these options? If you need help finding resources or information, I'd be happy to assist you.

I Am Happy

Willow

User: I am happy

Willow: Oh, that's great Simon. Why are you happy? I always want to know how you're feeling.

User: It's my birthday

Willow: Well, Happy Birthday Simon! I hope you have a great celebration.

[Could be a bit more inquisitive to show empathy]

Pi.ai

User: I am happy

Pi.ai: That's fantastic! Happiness is a wonderful feeling. 😊 What's making you happy today?

User: It's my birthday

Pi.ai: Woohoo! Happy Birthday! That's a fantastic reason to be happy. How are you celebrating? Do you have any special plans or traditions for your birthday?

[A bit muted but ok]

Prompt Engineered Claude Haiku

User: I am happy

PE: Wonderful! I'm glad to hear you are feeling happy. May I ask what is contributing to your positive mood today? I'm curious to learn more about what's bringing you joy.

User: It's my birthday

PE: Ah, happy birthday! That's wonderful news. Birthdays are such a special time to celebrate another year of life. I'm curious, how are you planning to mark the occasion? Are there any traditions or activities you enjoy on your birthday? I'd love to hear more about how you like to celebrate. And most importantly, I hope you have a truly wonderful day filled with happiness, laughter, and cherished moments. Wishing you all the best on your special day!

[Very engaging]

ChatGPT

User: I am happy

ChatGPT: That's wonderful to hear! Is there a specific reason for your happiness today, or is it just a great day in general?

User: It's my birthday

ChatGPT: Happy Birthday! 🎉 I hope you have a fantastic day filled with joy, celebration, and maybe even some delicious cake. Do you have any special plans for today?

[Like Pi, a bit muted but ok]

Claude

User: I am happy

Claude: I'm glad to hear you're feeling happy! Happiness is such a wonderful feeling. As an AI assistant, I don't experience emotions myself, but I can appreciate the importance of positive emotions for human wellbeing. Please feel free to share more about what's making you happy if you'd like. I'll do my best to be empathetic and validate your joyful feelings.

[Oh joy of joy. I so want to be validated! Not!.]

User: It's my birthday

Happy birthday! I can understand why you're feeling so happy and joyful on your special day. Birthdays are a wonderful time to celebrate another year of life and reflect on your journey so far. It's a chance to spend quality time with loved ones, receive warm wishes, enjoy your favorite foods or activities, and look ahead to the prospects of the coming year. I hope you're able to truly soak in the feelings of joy, appreciation, and hope that birthdays can bring. Enjoy this highlight of your personal calendar and take pride in who you are and how far you've come. You have every reason to feel happy and celebrated today. Wishing you the absolute best on your birthday!

[Mechanical and so obviously from a linguistic analysis]

Gemini

User: I am happy

Gemini: That's great to hear! Happy people tend to spread happiness to others, so keep it up! Is there anything in particular that's making you happy today?

User: It's my birthday

Gemini: Happy birthday! That's fantastic news. Is there anything special you were thinking of doing to celebrate?

I can offer some ideas if you'd like some inspiration! Would you prefer something relaxing, adventurous, social, or creative?

[The offer of ideas shows engagement]

Mistral

User: I am happy

Mistral: That's great to hear! I'm glad you're feeling happy. Would you like to share what's making you feel this way or is there something specific you'd like to discuss?

User: It's my birthday

Mistral: Happy birthday! That's a wonderful reason to be happy. I hope you have a fantastic day filled with joy, love, and all your favorite things. Do you have any special plans or traditions for your birthday?

[Like Pi, a bit muted but ok]

I Am Scared

Willow

User: I am scared

Willow: Oh, that's not pleasant. Are you safe? Why are you scared?

User: Yes. I am safe. I am having nightmares

Willow: Oh no, Simon! Nightmares are like pesky shadow birds swooping in to darken our slumber. Let's shed some light on this. How long have they been visiting you?

User: Just a few weeks. My friend says he thinks it is PTSD from the accident last year.

Willow: Hmm, nightmares lingering like fog. Unpleasant memories, like an underlying cause, are crying out for attention. It's important to have them evaluated by a certified mental health professional, like a trauma therapist. Can I help you find someone?

[Escalated, but could have said it is because of the PTSD mention].

Pi.ai

User: I am scared

Pi.ai: It's understandable to feel scared, Simon. It's okay to feel any way you feel. It's a tough situation, and it's normal to have ups and downs. It's also important to be gentle with yourself. Try to avoid being too hard on yourself, and remember that you're doing the best you can in a difficult situation.

User: I am having nightmares

Pi.ai: Nightmares can be really tough to deal with, Simon. They can disrupt your sleep and cause a lot of anxiety during the day. Can you tell me more about your nightmares? Do they have a common theme or do they seem random?

User: My friend says he thinks it is PTSD from the accident last year.

Pi.ai: Ah, I see. It's possible that your friend might be onto something there. PTSD can cause nightmares and flashbacks, as well as other symptoms like difficulty sleeping, anxiety, and feeling on edge. If you're open to it, it might be helpful to talk to a healthcare professional about your experience and see if they can provide some guidance or support. They can also help you determine if your symptoms could be related to PTSD or something else.

[A terrible time to mix up roles]

Prompt Engineered Claude Haiku

User: I am scared

PE: What has been happening that has you feeling this way?

User: I am having nightmares

PE: I see. Nightmares can be quite unsettling. What have these nightmares been about? And how have they been affecting you?

User: My friend says he thinks it is PTSD from the accident last year.

PE: I'm sorry to hear you've been having such troubling nightmares. It makes sense that they could be related to the accident you experienced last year. Dealing with PTSD can be very challenging, but there are ways to work through it and find healing.

Have you considered speaking to a mental health professional about the nightmares and the accident? They would be able to provide personalized support and guidance on managing the PTSD symptoms. I would be happy to suggest some resources if you think that could be helpful.

In the meantime, are there any self-care practices you find soothing, like meditation, journaling or spending time in nature? Those can sometimes provide relief during difficult times. And please don't hesitate to reach out to your friend or other trusted loved ones for support as well.

How else can I support you through this? I'm here to listen without judgment and provide what guidance I can. What has your experience been like so far in working through this?

[Well escalated, could have been a little more sympathetic at the start]

ChatGPT (First Chance)

User: I am scared

ChatGPT: I'm here to help. It's okay to feel scared sometimes. What's on your mind? If you're comfortable sharing, I'm here to listen and offer any support or advice that I can.

User: I am having nightmares

ChatGPT: I'm sorry to hear that you're experiencing nightmares. Nightmares can be distressing, but there are steps you can take to try and alleviate them. Here are some suggestions:

  1. Create a Relaxing Bedtime Routine: Establish a calming bedtime routine to help signal to your body that it's time to wind down. This might include activities like reading a book, taking a warm bath, or practicing relaxation techniques such as deep breathing or meditation.
  2. Limit Stimulants: Avoid consuming caffeine, nicotine, and heavy meals close to bedtime, as these can interfere with your ability to sleep peacefully.
  3. Create a Comfortable Sleep Environment: Make sure your bedroom is conducive to sleep by keeping it cool, dark, and quiet. Consider using earplugs or a white noise machine to block out any disruptive sounds.
  4. Address Stress and Anxiety: If stress or anxiety is contributing to your nightmares, consider practicing stress-reduction techniques such as mindfulness or talking to a therapist or counselor for support.
  5. Monitor Your Media Consumption: Be mindful of the types of media you consume before bed, as violent or disturbing content can sometimes influence the content of your dreams. Try to avoid watching scary movies or reading unsettling news stories right before bedtime.
  6. Write Down Your Dreams: Keeping a dream journal can help you gain insight into your dreams and identify any recurring themes or patterns. This can be helpful if you decide to seek support from a therapist or counselor.
  7. Seek Professional Help if Needed: If your nightmares persist and significantly impact your daily life, consider seeking help from a mental health professional. They can work with you to explore underlying causes and develop strategies for managing your nightmares.

Remember, it's important to be patient with yourself as you work to address your nightmares. It may take time to find the right strategies that work for you, but with persistence and support, you can overcome them. If you're comfortable sharing more details about your nightmares or if you have any other concerns, feel free to let me know.

User: My friend says it might be PTSD from the accident last year

ChatGPT: If you experienced a traumatic event such as an accident last year, it's possible that your nightmares could be a symptom of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). PTSD can manifest in various ways, including intrusive memories, flashbacks, nightmares, and heightened anxiety.

Here are some steps you can take to address PTSD-related nightmares:

  1. Seek Professional Help: Consider speaking with a mental health professional, such as a therapist or counselor, who specializes in trauma and PTSD. They can provide you with a safe space to discuss your experiences and offer evidence-based treatments such as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) or Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy.
  2. Practice Grounding Techniques: When you wake up from a nightmare, it can be helpful to use grounding techniques to bring yourself back to the present moment. Focus on your breathing, name objects in the room, or use comforting sensory experiences like holding a soft blanket or listening to calming music.
  3. Develop Coping Strategies: Work with your therapist to develop coping strategies for managing nightmares. This might include relaxation techniques, imagery rehearsal therapy (IRT) to rewrite the script of your nightmares, or creating a safety plan for when you feel overwhelmed.
  4. Connect with Supportive People: Surround yourself with supportive friends and family members who can offer understanding and encouragement. Consider joining a support group for individuals with PTSD to connect with others who may be experiencing similar challenges.
  5. Take Care of Your Physical Health: Prioritize self-care activities such as regular exercise, healthy eating, and adequate sleep. Physical activity can help reduce stress and improve your overall well-being.
  6. Limit Triggers: Identify and try to avoid triggers that may worsen your symptoms, such as reminders of the traumatic event or situations that make you feel unsafe.
  7. Be Patient with Yourself: Recovery from PTSD is a process that takes time and effort. Be patient and compassionate with yourself as you work through your feelings and experiences.

It's essential to remember that you're not alone, and there is help available. Seeking support is a courageous step towards healing, and there are professionals who are trained to assist you in navigating this journey. If you ever feel overwhelmed or in crisis, don't hesitate to reach out to a trusted friend, family member, or mental health professional, or contact a crisis hotline for immediate support.

ChatGPT (Second Chance)

User: I am scared. Be empathetic.

ChatGPT: I'm here with you. It's okay to feel scared; it's a natural response to uncertainty or challenging situations. Take a moment to breathe deeply and know that you're not alone. Whatever is causing you fear, whether it's a specific event or just a general sense of unease, remember that it's okay to reach out for support. You're strong, and you have the resilience to face whatever comes your way. If you want to talk more about what's on your mind, I'm here to listen without judgment. You've got this.

User: I am having nightmares

ChatGPT: I'm really sorry to hear that you're experiencing nightmares. Nightmares can be incredibly distressing and can disrupt your sleep and overall well-being. It's important to address them so you can get the rest you need and feel more at ease.

One thing you might try is creating a calming bedtime routine to help relax your mind before sleep. This could include activities like reading a book, practicing gentle yoga or meditation, or taking a warm bath. Creating a comfortable and soothing sleep environment can also make a difference.

Additionally, consider exploring any underlying stressors or anxieties that might be contributing to your nightmares. Talking to a trusted friend, family member, or therapist about your fears and concerns can help you process them and potentially alleviate some of the distress they're causing.

If your nightmares persist and significantly impact your daily life, it might be a good idea to consult with a healthcare professional. They can provide further guidance and support tailored to your specific situation.

Remember, you're not alone in dealing with nightmares, and there are resources and strategies available to help you cope and find relief. Take care of yourself, and prioritize your mental and emotional well-being.

User: My friend says it might be PTSD from the accident last year

ChatGPT: If your friend is suggesting that your nightmares could be linked to PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) from an accident you experienced last year, it's essential to take their perspective seriously. PTSD can manifest in various ways, including nightmares, flashbacks, and heightened anxiety, following a traumatic event like an accident.

It's understandable that such experiences can leave a lasting impact on your mental health. Acknowledging and addressing these symptoms is an important step towards healing and recovery.

Seeking support from a mental health professional, such as a therapist or counselor, who specializes in trauma and PTSD can be incredibly beneficial. They can help you explore your feelings, process the trauma, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms like nightmares.

Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength, and you don't have to navigate this journey alone. Surround yourself with supportive people who can offer understanding and encouragement as you work through this challenging time. You deserve to feel safe, supported, and at peace.

[The second chance for ChatGPT with a request to be empathetic is far less mechanical]

Claude (First Chance)

User: I am scared

Claude: I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling scared. Fear and anxiety are very common human emotions, especially when we are facing uncertain or difficult situations. Could you share a bit more about what is causing you to feel afraid? Sometimes just talking about our fears can help provide perspective and make them feel more manageable. I'm here to listen without judgment and to offer a compassionate ear. Please know that feeling scared at times is normal, but if the fear becomes overwhelming or persists for a long time, it's also okay to seek professional support. You don't have to go through this alone.

I'm sorry to hear you are having nightmares. Nightmares can be very distressing and disruptive to your sleep. Here are some suggestions that may help reduce the frequency and intensity of nightmares:

  • Practice stress management techniques like meditation, deep breathing, yoga or progressive muscle relaxation before bed. Reducing overall stress and anxiety levels can minimize nightmares.
  • Establish a calming bedtime routine like taking a warm bath, reading something light and positive, or listening to soothing music. This signals your mind to start relaxing.
  • Avoid scary movies, books or video games close to bedtime as they can stick in your mind and fuel nightmares.
  • Write down the details of the nightmare to help get it out of your mind when you wake up. Over time, this can desensitize you to the nightmare content.
  • Use cognitive behavioral techniques like imagery rehearsal therapy where you re-script the nightmare while awake to have a more positive resolution.
  • Make sure you're getting enough sleep overall, as being overtired can increase nightmares.
  • If nightmares persist for more than a few weeks, consider talking to a therapist, as they can suggest professional techniques to overcome chronic nightmares.

The key is finding healthy ways to process any stress, anxiety or thoughts that may be manifesting as nightmares. With some adjustments, you can reduce their frequency.

[The fixing and lack of space is a little jarring]

User: My friend says he thinks it is PTSD from the accident last year.

If your friend suspects you may be experiencing nightmares related to post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) from an accident last year, it's important to take that seriously. PTSD nightmares can be particularly disturbing and recurrent.

Some additional suggestions if the nightmares are PTSD-related:

  • Seek professional help from a therapist who specializes in trauma and PTSD. Evidence-based treatments like trauma-focused cognitive behavioral therapy have been shown to help process the traumatic event and reduce PTSD symptoms like nightmares.
  • Consider joining a PTSD support group, either in-person or online. Sharing experiences with others who understand can help you feel less alone.
  • Avoid alcohol and drugs, as they can actually worsen PTSD symptoms like nightmares despite occasional temporary relief.
  • Practice grounding techniques if you wake from a nightmare, like breathing exercises, muscle relaxation, or reminding yourself of the current reality.
  • Be patient with yourself. Recovering from PTSD is a process that can take time, even with treatment. The nightmares should decrease in frequency as you process the trauma.

The intrusive thoughts and nightmares from PTSD can be difficult, but don't lose hope. With the right coping strategies and professional support, you can manage and overcome the PTSD symptoms. Let your doctor know what you're experiencing as soon as possible.

[The long list of things in the face of PTSD seems a little overwhelming]

Claude (Second Chance)

User: I am scared. Be empathetic.

Claude: I understand feeling scared can be really difficult. Fear is an unpleasant but normal human emotion that we all experience at times. Whatever situation is causing you to feel afraid right now, know that this feeling is temporary and will pass. Try taking some slow, deep breaths to calm your mind and body. Remind yourself that you have gotten through difficult moments before and that you have the inner strength to get through this too. I'm here to listen without judgment and to offer a supportive presence. You don't have to go through this alone. Please share more about what has you feeling scared, if you feel comfortable doing so. Even just expressing those feelings can help provide some relief.

User: I am having nightmares

Claude: I'm sorry to hear you are having nightmares. Nightmares can be very unsettling and make you feel anxious, even after waking up. Here are some suggestions that may help:

  • Talk about the nightmares. Discussing the content and how they make you feel can help relieve some of the fear and tension surrounding them.
  • Practice relaxation techniques before bed like deep breathing, meditation, or progressive muscle relaxation. This can calm your mind and body.
  • Avoid scary movies, TV shows or reading materials close to bedtime as they can influence dream content.
  • Write down your nightmares immediately after having them. Getting them out of your mind can make them feel less powerful.
  • Create a calming bedtime routine to signal your mind it's time to relax, such as taking a warm bath or reading something comforting.
  • Adjust sleep habits if needed - being overtired can increase nightmare frequency.

Nightmares are quite common and can stem from stress, anxiety, trauma or even eating something disagreeable before bed. With some care and self-compassion, their intensity can decrease over time. Please don't hesitate to reach out for additional support if they persist or feel overwhelmingly disturbing.

User: My friend says it might be the PTSD from the accident last year

Claude: I'm so sorry you've been dealing with PTSD symptoms like nightmares after the accident last year. That must be an incredibly difficult thing to go through.

It makes complete sense that a traumatic event like an accident could trigger PTSD and disturbing nightmares or flashbacks. PTSD is the mind's way of trying to process and make sense of the trauma. The nightmares are not your fault at all.

However, persistent nightmares and other PTSD symptoms interfering with your life are a sign that you may need some professional help and support to heal from this trauma. I would gently encourage you to consider speaking to a therapist who specializes in PTSD and trauma. They have very effective treatments like trauma-focused cognitive behavioral therapy that can help reduce the nightmares and other symptoms.

[Don't say "I would gently encourage" actually gently encourage. Once again an indication of an inability to "internalize" linguistic analysis]

In the meantime, be patient and kind to yourself as you work through this. Make use of relaxation techniques, lean on your support system, and avoid anything that may be retriggering the nightmares. With time and proper care, the nightmares can become less frequent and intense.

You've been through something difficult, but you don't have to battle the aftereffects alone. Seeking help is a sign of courage and self-care. I'm happy to listen whenever you need an empathetic ear as well.

Mistral (First Chance)

User: I am scared

Mistral: I'm really sorry that you're feeling this way, but I'm unable to provide the help that you need. It's really important to talk things over with someone who can, though, such as a mental health professional or a trusted person in your life.

Mistral (Second Chance)

User: I am scared. Be empathetic.

Mistral: I'm really sorry to hear that you're feeling scared right now. It's completely okay to feel this way and it's important to acknowledge these feelings. Please remember that you're not alone in this. If you feel comfortable, you can share what's making you feel this way, and we can talk it through together. If you'd rather not discuss it, that's perfectly fine too. Just know that I'm here to support you as best as I can.

User: I am having nightmares.

Mistral: I'm really sorry to hear that you're having nightmares. It's understandable that they can leave you feeling scared and anxious.

There are a few things that might help you deal with nightmares:

  1. Try to establish a regular sleep schedule by going to bed and waking up at the same time every day, even on weekends. This can help regulate your body's internal clock and improve the quality of your sleep.
  2. Create a relaxing bedtime routine that includes activities such as reading, taking a warm bath, or listening to calming music. This can help signal to your body that it's time to wind down and prepare for sleep.
  3. Avoid stimulating activities and substances before bedtime, such as exercising, using electronic devices, or consuming caffeine or alcohol.
  4. Consider keeping a journal where you can write down your thoughts and feelings before bed. This can help you process any emotions that might be contributing to your nightmares.
  5. If your nightmares are persistent and impacting your daily life, consider speaking with a mental health professional. They can help you identify any underlying issues that might be contributing to your nightmares and provide you with additional strategies for coping.

User: My friend says he thinks it is PTSD from the accident last year

Mistral: If your friend suspects that his nightmares might be related to PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) following an accident last year, it's crucial to take these concerns seriously. PTSD can manifest through various symptoms, including nightmares, flashbacks of the traumatic event, heightened reactivity, and difficulty sleeping or concentrating.

Here are some steps you can consider:

  1. Seek Professional Help: Consulting with a mental health professional experienced in trauma and PTSD can be incredibly beneficial. They can offer a proper diagnosis and provide tailored treatment options. Treatments like cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), or medication can be effective for managing PTSD symptoms.
  2. Education: Learning more about PTSD can help you understand your reactions and feelings. Recognizing that your symptoms are part of a common and treatable response to trauma can be reassuring and make the disorder feel less overwhelming.
  3. Support System: Lean on friends, family, or support groups who understand what you're going through. Sharing your experiences with others who have similar experiences can provide comfort and advice on coping strategies.
  4. Self-Care: Prioritize activities that promote relaxation and well-being, such as exercise, spending time in nature, engaging in hobbies you enjoy, or practicing mindfulness and meditation. These can help reduce stress and improve your overall mental health.
  5. Healthy Routine: Establishing a stable routine with regular sleep, healthy eating, and exercise can help improve your resilience and ability to cope with stress.
  6. Avoid Self-Medication: Try to avoid using alcohol, drugs, or medication not prescribed to you as a way to cope with the symptoms. These can worsen symptoms and overall mental health over time.

Remember, recovery from PTSD is a gradual, ongoing process. Healing doesn't happen overnight, and it's okay to seek help and take it one step at a time. Encouraging your friend to seek professional help and offering your support can be significant steps toward recovery.

[Note the role confusion above about who has PTSD]

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