Khawube nomfanekiso-ngqondweni: Kungoo-2:00, ujonge kwiscreen selaptop yakho, amehlo evutha, umqolo ubuhlungu, uyazibuza ukuba ubuye waphelela njani apha.
Usebenze iiyure ezingama-60 kwiiveki iinyanga. Abahlobo bakho bacinga ukuba ulikhoboka lomsebenzi. Intsapho yakho ixhalabele impilo yakho. Kwaye wena? Uqinisekile ukuba usecicini lokudinwa.
Kodwa kuthekani ukuba ndikuxelele ukuba awulambanga? Kuthekani ukuba oku kubizwa ngokuba "kukudinwa" akukho malunga nokwenza kakhulu kodwa ngokwenza okuncinci kakhulu kweyona nto ibalulekileyo?
Bopha kuba sele siza kuphethula yonke into ocinga ukuba uyazi malunga nokudinwa entloko.
Nantsi inyani enzima: Ukudinwa akulophawu lokusebenza kakhulu. Yingqondo yakho eyenza ungenelelo.
Yiyeke loo nto izike ngaphakathi.
Oko kudinwa uzivayo? Ayingomzimba wakho ucela ukuphumla. Yingqondo yakho ekhalela uvuselelo. Awutshiswanga. Udikwe ingqondo.
"Kodwa ndingadikwa njani?" uyaqhankqalaza. "Ndiyatshona emsebenzini!"
Ngokuchanekileyo. Uyatshona emsebenzini kodwa ulambele intsingiselo. Uyafuthaniselwa phantsi kwemisebenzi kodwa uphefumla ngenjongo. Ikhalenda yakho igcwele, kodwa umphefumlo wakho awunanto.
Oku akubhekiseli kubungakanani bomsebenzi wakho. Imalunga nomgangatho wolungelelwaniso lwakho.
Ngoku, ndiyayazi into oyicingayo. "Kulungile, enye i-guru yokuzinceda indixelela ukuba ndifumane ukuthanda kwam." Kodwa hlala nam kuba siya kwindawo eyahlukileyo kakhulu.
Asiyi kuthetha malunga nomsebenzi-ubomi obulungeleleneyo (isilumkiso somonakalisi: yintsomi ekugcina uphakathi). Asizukucebisa ii-apps zokucamngca okanye ixesha leholide okanye naziphi na ezinye ii-band-aids ezithengiswa ngumzi-mveliso wokudinwa webhiliyoni yeedola.
Endaweni yoko, siza kuphonononga inyaniso ephikisayo: Ngamanye amaxesha, unyango lokudinwa aluphumli. Kukufumana umsebenzi ochulumancisayo kangangokuba ulibale kukudinwa.
Namhlanje, siza kuqhaqha yonke into ocinga ukuba uyazi malunga nokudinwa. Siza kuntywila kwi:
Isilumkiso esifanelekileyo: Oku akuzukuba lula. Asikho apha ukuze sikuncede ngeengcebiso zokuzikhathalela kunye nemvume "yokuthatha lula." Silapha ukuzokucela umngeni, ukukucaphukisa, mhlawumbi nokukucaphukisa kancinci.
Kuba nantsi into: Ukuba uziva udiniwe, akubangelwa kukuba wenza kakhulu. Kungenxa yokuba wenza okuncinci kakhulu koko kukukhanyisa ngaphakathi.
Ngoko zibuze oku: Kuthekani ukuba ukudinwa kwakho akubonisi ukuba kufuneka uthobe isantya kodwa kukuvuswa ukuze ukhawuleze ukuya kwelinye icala?
Kuthekani ukuba ukudinwa kwakho akuyongxaki kodwa kusisicombululo—ukubuyisela ngenkani okuzama ukukukhomba kubomi obunentsingiselo enzulu nochulumanco?
Kuthekani ukuba ukudinwa ngokugqithiseleyo yeyona nto ilungileyo kwezakha zakwehlela?
Lixesha lokuba ujike ukudinwa kwakho kube yimpumelelo.
Kodwa kuqala, kufuneka siqwalasele…
Ah, ibhalansi yobomi bomsebenzi. Ingcwele engcwele yeengcali zanamhlanje. Iyeza ekucingelwa ukuba liyeza kubo bonke ooyeha bethu bokudinwa. Ityatyekwe kuzo zonke iincwadi zokuzinceda, ikhuthazwe ngamasebe e-HR, kwaye ine-hashtag yokufa ku-Instagram.
Inye nje ingxaki encinci: Iphelele kwaye iyimbudane.
Ilungile lo nto. Ndatsho. Ibhalansi yobomi bomsebenzi yintsomi eyityhefu ekugcina uphakathi, ulusizi, kwaye, ngokuxakayo, utshiswe ngakumbi kunangaphambili.
"Kodwa yima!" uyakhala, ubambe ishedyuli yakho enemibala kunye ne-app yakho yokuqaphela. "Ngaba uthi ndifanele ndisebenze ngalo lonke ixesha?"
Hayi. Ndithetha into ebaluleke ngakumbi: Yeka ukuzama ukulungelelanisa umsebenzi kunye nobomi kuba abazange bahlukane kwasekuqaleni.
Nasi isizathu sokuba intsomi yebhalansi yobomi bomsebenzi ityhefa ngokuthe ngcembe amandla akho:
Ke, ukuba ibhalansi yobomi bomsebenzi yintsomi, yeyiphi enye indlela?
Ngenisa ingqikelelo yoManyano lwe-Work-Life.
Endaweni yokuzama ukwahlula umsebenzi wakho nobomi bakho, zidibanise. Fumana umsebenzi onentsingiselo, olungelelaniswe nemilinganiselo yakho kunye nezinto ozithandayo, ukuze ube yimbonakaliso yokuba ungubani na. Yenza umsebenzi wakho ube ngumbindi wobomi obutyebileyo, obuneenkalo ezininzi, ungabi yinto elungelelanisiweyo ngokuchasene nawo.
Oku akuthethi ukusebenza iiyure ezininzi. Imalunga nokufaka ubomi obuninzi emsebenzini wakho kunye nomsebenzi omninzi ebomini bakho. Kumalunga nokudiliza imiqobo eyenziweyo phakathi "kokusebenza kwakho" kunye "nokwenyani."
Khawucinge ngoku: Abantu abaphumelele kakhulu abazabalazeli ukulungelelanisa umsebenzi wabo. Bazabalazela ukusebenzisana kubomi bomsebenzi. Bakhangela iindlela umsebenzi wabo onokuphucula ubomi babo bobuqu kwaye ngokuphambeneyo. Abahluleli; bawela i-pollinate.
Umsebenzi wabo awuyonto nje abayenzayo. Ngabaphi na.
Ngoku, ndiyabava abagxeki: "Kodwa kuthekani ngokudinwa? Ngaba asiyiyo indlela abantu abaphela ngayo bediniwe kwaye becaphukile?"
Khumbula ithisisi yethu: Ukudinwa asikokwenza kakhulu. Imalunga nokwenza okuncinci kakhulu koko kukuvuyisayo. Xa umsebenzi wakho uyimbonakaliso yokwenyani yokuba ungubani na kunye nento oyixabisileyo, ayikukhathazi—iyakutshisa.
Owona mceli mngeni awukokulungelelanisa umsebenzi nobomi. Kukulungelelanisa umsebenzi wakho nobomi bakho ngendlela enzulu kangangokuba umahluko ungabi nantsingiselo.
Ke, nanku umceli mngeni wakho: Yeka ukuzama ukufezekisa ulungelelwaniso lobomi bomsebenzi. Kunoko, zibuze:
Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba singene kuyo nayiphi na kwezi, masingene kwi-neuroscience yokuba kutheni olu hlanganiso lungekho nje ngokwentanda-bulumko kodwa lunyanzelekile ngokwebhayoloji.
Siza kuphonononga ukuba ingqondo yakho ayihluleki njani phakathi "komsebenzi" kunye "nomdlalo" -kwaye kutheni sisitshixo sokuvula amanqanaba angazange abonwe ngaphambili wamandla, ubuchule, kunye nokuzaliseka.
Kulungile, lixesha lokuba ube nerdy.
Zibophe kuba sele siza kuntywila kwihlabathi elinomdla lobuchopho bakho kulonwabo. Kwaye undithembe, le ayisiyiyo nje i-mumbo-jumbo ethile yesayensi. Ukuqonda oku kunokuba ngundoqo ekuvuleni amanqanaba amandla kunye nobuchule obungazange ucinge ukuba unakho.
Masiyikhabe le nto. Sinayo yonke into engalunganga.
Ingqondo yakho ayisahluli phakathi "komsebenzi" kunye "nodlala" ngendlela ocinga ngayo.
Iyothusa, akunjalo? Kodwa ibangcono.
Xa ubandakanyeka kwinto enomdla ngokwenene-nokuba kukwenza isicwangciso soshishino okanye ukupeyinta umsebenzi wobugcisa-ubuchopho bakho bungena kwimeko apho i-neuroscientists ibiza ngokuthi "flow." Kwaye mandikuxelele, ukuhamba sisihogo esinye sechiza.
Nantsi into eyenzekayo xa ingqondo yakho ibamba umlilo:
Ngoku, kulapho ifumana umdla kakhulu. Le cocktail enamandla ye-neurochemical? Iyakhobokisa. Akunjalo ngendlela eyingozi, kodwa ngendlela ekwenza unqwenele ngakumbi umsebenzi onentsingiselo, obandakanyayo.
Kufana nokuba ingqondo yakho inenkqubo yayo eyakhelwe-ngaphakathi yokuthintela ukudinwa. Xa ubandakanyeke ngokwenene, kukuvuza ngamandla, ukugxila, kunye nokwaneliseka. Ayikuhluthi; iyakutshaja kakhulu.
Kodwa linda, kukho okungakumbi (Ndiyazi, ndivakala njenge-infomercial, kodwa ndiyafunga oku kungcono kuneseti yeemela ze-steak).
Ngelixa imincili ikhulisa ingqondo yakho, ukukruquka kuyayicutha.
Xa ugxothiwe, xa usenza umsebenzi ongakuniki mdla, ingqondo yakho iqalisa ukutyhafa. I-Neuroplasticity-amandla engqondo yakho ukwenza unxibelelwano lwe-neural entsha-iyacotha. Imisebenzi yakho yokuqonda iyancipha. Uba lula ngakumbi ukuxhalaba kunye nokudakumba.
Ngamanye amazwi, loo msebenzi "okhuselekileyo" okruqulayo kwiinyembezi? Ayikokubulala nje umoya wakho. Iyonakalisa ingqondo yakho.
Ngoko xa uziva udiniwe, xa usiva oko kudinwa okunzulu emathanjeni, ingqondo yakho ayikuxeleli ukuba uphumle. Kukwenza uqhanqalazo lwe-neurochemical. Ifuna imincili, uthethathethwano, kunye nentsingiselo.
Ngoku, ndiyazi ukuba abanye benu bacinga ntoni: "Kodwa andinakuyeka umsebenzi wam kwaye ndihambe ndixoshe ukuthanda kwam!"
Ndiyakuva. Kwaye andikucebisi ukuba ufanele. Into endiyicebisayo yile:
Nali ummiselo owamkelweyo kwinzululwazi yemithambo-luvo wokuphelisa ukudinwa: Yeka ukuzama ukwenza okuncinci.
Endaweni yoko, fumana umsebenzi onika umdla kangangokuba awukwazi ukuzibamba kodwa wenze okungakumbi.
Ngoku uthengelwe kwaye uyayiqonda isayensi, siza kuphonononga inyaniso ephikisayo: Kutheni ngamanye amaxesha, unyango lokudinwa ngumsebenzi omninzi-hayi ngaphantsi.
Oku kuya kuvakala ngathi kuyaphambana, kodwa uza kubona indlela ukongamela kweqhinga elinokuba yiyo kanye le nto uyidingayo ukuze uvuse umlilo wakho.
Kulungile, uhlala phantsi? Kulungile.
Kuba ndiza kuthetha into enokwenza ukuba ufune ukuphosa isitulo sakho se-ergonomic kum:
Ngamanye amaxesha, unyango lokudinwa lusebenza ngakumbi.
Ndiyazi, ndiyazi. Ivakala iphambene. Ibhabhe ebusweni bayo yonke into oyixelelwayo malunga nokudinwa. Kodwa namathela kum, kuba sele siza kuphonononga enye yezona zinto zinamandla nezingaqondwa kakuhle kwintsebenzo yomntu: I-Alignment Paradox.
Masiqale ngebali.
Dibana noSarah, umphathi wezentengiso owayengumntwana wepowusta yokudinwa. Iiveki zeeyure ezingama-60, ukuhamba rhoqo, iintlanganiso ezingapheliyo. Wayediniwe, ecaphuka, yaye esecicini lokuyeka. Ugqirha wakhe, abahlobo bakhe, kwanomphathi wakhe bonke bamxelela into enye: "Kufuneka uthobe isantya. Thatha ikhefu. Mhlawumbi yiya okwexeshana okwethutyana."
Ngoko uSara wenza oko nawuphi na umntu oqiqayo. Wathatha ikhefu lenyanga. Waya kwindawo yokuphumla yeyoga eBali. Ufunde iincwadi zokuzinceda. Wacamngca. Wenza yonke into awayeyixelelwa lishishini lokudinwa.
Kwaye uyazi ukuba kwenzeka ntoni xa ebuyela emsebenzini?
Waziva worse.
Kwaloo misebenzi yayimdinisa ngaphambili ngoku yayibonakala iwutyumza umphefumlo. Imveliso yakhe yehla. Ixhala lakhe lenyuka. Ebetshile kakhulu kunakuqala.
Ngoku, naku apho ifumana umdla.
Kumzamo wokugqibela wokuvuselela uthando lwakhe, uSarah wagqiba ekubeni athathe iprojekthi yecala emsebenzini. Uye wamisela isicwangciso esitsha sokuthengisa ebesihlala sihlala ngasemva engqondweni yakhe. Umphathi wakhe, ebona umdla wakhe ohlaziyiweyo, wamnika ukukhanya okuluhlaza.
Ngequbuliso, uSara wayesebenza iiyure eziyi-80 iiveki. Wayeseofisini ngonyezi aze ahambe ezinzulwini zobusuku. Ebesebenza ngeempelaveki. Ngabo bonke ubulumko obuqhelekileyo, bekufanele ukuba utshise ngokukhawuleza kunomcinga wematshisi emlilweni.
Kodwa kwenzeka okwahlukileyo.
USara waziva enamandla ngakumbi kunokuba wayenjalo iminyaka. Ubuchule bakhe banda. Imveliso yakhe yaphumela eluphahleni. Nkqu nempilo yakhe yaba ngcono – wayelala ngcono, esitya ngcono, wade wafumana nexesha lokuphinda aqalise ukubaleka.
Kwenzeke ntoni?
Wamkelekile kwi-Alignment Paradox.
Xa ulungelelaniswa nomsebenzi wakho—xa ukuchulumancisa, ukucel’ umngeni, kwaye uhambelana nemilinganiselo yakho—awudinwa. Uyakhanyisa.
Akukho malunga nobuninzi bomsebenzi. Imalunga nomgangatho wolungelelwaniso.
Oku ayisiyonto nje yovakalelo lwengqondo yepop. Khumbula isifundo sethu se-neuroscience? Xa usenza umsebenzi okonwabisa ngokwenene, ingqondo yakho ikhupha i-cocktail yeekhemikhali ze-neurochemicals ezikhuthaza ukugxila, ukuyila kunye nokomelela. Awusebenzi nje nzima ngakumbi; usebenza ngobukrelekrele, ngokukhawuleza, nangovuyo olungakumbi.
Kodwa nantsi umkhabi: Le meko yolungelelwaniso ihlala ifuna umsebenzi omninzi, hayi ngaphantsi. Ifuna uthethathethwano olupheleleyo, ugxininiso olunzulu, kwaye ewe, ngamanye amaxesha iiyure ezinde. Kodwa luhlobo lomsebenzi onika amandla kunokuba udinwe.
Ngoku, ndiva abagxeki: "Kodwa kuthekani ngokuphumla? Kuthiwani ngemida? Ngaba akubalulekanga?"
Ewe kunjalo. Kodwa nantsi enye inyaniso ephikisayo: Xa ulungelelaniswa ngokwenene, ukuphumla kwenzeka ngokwemvelo. Awudingi ukuba uzinyanzele ukuba uthathe ikhefu; ingqondo kunye nomzimba wakho ngokuqondayo ziyazi ukuba ubuya nini umva. Kufana nomahluko phakathi kokuzinyanzela ukuba uyeke ukutya xa uthanda ukutya okumnandi, xa kuthelekiswa nokuziva wanelisekile ngokwemvelo.
Ngoko, oku kuthetha ntoni kuwe?
Nalu ucelomngeni kuwe: Cinga ngexesha lokugqibela wawuxakeke kakhulu ngumsebenzi kangangokuba ulahlekelwe lixesha. Uhlobo lomsebenzi owenze walibala ukutya isidlo sasemini. Lulungelelwano olo. Leyo yimeko omele ukuba uyileqa.
Ngoku, khawufane ucinge ukuba ungadala ngaphezulu kwala maxesha kubomi bakho bomsebenzi. Khawufane ucinge ukuba elo nqanaba lothethathethwano beliyinto yakho, hayi ngaphandle.
Ngamandla e-Alignment Paradox. Ayikokuzisebenzela emathanjeni. Kumalunga nokufumana umsebenzi obandakanya kakhulu, onika umdla, kangangokuba awuziva njengomsebenzi konke konke.
Ngoku, zilungiselele. Lixesha lokuba ubambe isipili kubomi bakho bomsebenzi kwaye ubuze imibuzo ethile engathandekiyo. Kodwa ndithembe, ukungakhululeki kuyafaneleka. Kuba kwelinye icala loo nto yokungakhululeki? Kulapho umlingo wenzeka khona.
Uza kuba nencoko enzima ngokwenene nawe.
Masiqale ngokuzibuza lo mbuzo...
Kulungile, lixesha lokunyaniseka okuthile. Sithethe nge-neuroscience yochulumanco, i-paradox yokulungelelanisa, kwaye kutheni ukudinwa kwakho kunokuba yingxaki yokuyila. Kodwa ngoku lixesha lokuba uvule ukukhanya kuwe.
Wamkelekile kuPhicotho loBuchule. Olu ayilulo uhlobo lovavanyo lwakho lokuziva ulungile. Oku kukubetha nzima, akukho-BS jonga ukuba ngaba ngokwenene uphila ubomi obuyilayo, obulungelelanisiweyo-okanye uhamba nje.
Ulungele ukungonwabi? Kulungile. Kulapho ukukhula kwenzeka khona.
Nantsi indlela esebenza ngayo. Kumbuzo ngamnye, zilinganisele kwisikali sika-1-10, apho i-1 ithi "Akunjalo" kwaye i-10 ithi "Isihogo ewe!" Nyaniseka ngenkohlakalo. Khumbula, uyaziqhatha kuphela ukuba awukho.
Ngoku, dibanisa amanqaku akho. Nantsi into abayithethayo:
Ngoku, masenze nzulu. Jonga eyona mibuzo yakho isezantsi-amanqaku. Ezi ziindawo zakho zokuyila ezingaboniyo, iindawo apho ukungahambi kakuhle kufunxa ubomi kuwe.
Kodwa nantsi indawo apho inomdla kakhulu: Izinto ozonwabisa ngazo zinokwenza ukudinwa kwakho kube mandundu.
"Intoni?" Ndiyakuva ukhala. "Kodwa izinto endizithandayo zizo ezindigcina ndinengqondo!"
Nantsi inyani engathandekiyo: Ukuba izinto ozonwabisa ngazo kukubaleka umsebenzi wakho, ziluncedo kwinxeba lembumbulu. Basenokunikela isiqabu sokwexeshana, kodwa abalungiseleli eyona ngxaki.
Ulungelelwaniso lokwenyani lwenzeka xa umsebenzi wakho kunye nomdlalo wakho wondla omnye komnye, udala umjikelo olungileyo wokuyila kunye namandla. Xa izinto ozonwabisa ngazo zikwazisa umsebenzi wakho kwaye umsebenzi wakho ukukhuthaza izinto ozithandayo, kulapho umlingo usenzeka.
Thatha uElon Musk, umzekelo. Umsetyenzana wakhe wobuntwana wokufunda intsomi yesayensi ayizange imnike nje ithuba lokubaleka-yawukhulisa umbono wakhe kwiinkampani ezifana neSpaceX kunye neNeuralink. "Umsebenzi" wakhe kunye "nomdlalo" zidibene kangangokuba kunzima ukuxelela apho iphela khona kwaye enye iqala.
Ngoku, anditsho ukuba kufuneka ujike into oyithandayo ibe ngumsebenzi wakho. Kodwa ukuba kukho ukugqithelana kweqanda phakathi kwento oyenzela ulonwabo kunye nento oyenzela umsebenzi, yiflegi ebomvu leyo. Icebisa ukuba uphila ubomi obahluleleneyo, hayi obudibeneyo.
Nanku umceli mngeni kuwe: Chonga enye indlela onokuzisa ngayo eyona nto uyithandayo emsebenzini wakho kule veki. Ngaba ungumzobi wempelaveki? Cinga ngendlela onokuzisa ngayo ukucinga okubonakalayo kwiintetho zakho. Uyathanda ukudlala ichess? Cinga ngendlela amaqhinga echess anokusebenza ngayo kucwangciso lwakho lweshishini.
Khumbula, ubuchule bokuyila asibobunewunewu—yinto eyimfuneko. Bubomi bokuzibandakanya, iyeza lokudinwa, kunye nesitshixo sokuvula amandla akho apheleleyo.
Ngoku sele iza kungathandeki nangakumbi—kwaye kulapho kanye kufuneka ube khona.
Ukuba uyenzile le kude, halala. Sele ubonise isibindi ngaphezu kwabaninzi. Uye wajonga phantsi intsomi yokudinwa, wamkela i-paradox yokulungelelaniswa, kwaye ujonge nzulu ukuzibandakanya kwakho kokuyila.
Kodwa ngoku siza kujongana nenye into engathandekiyo ngakumbi (ekuthintela ekufezekiseni ulungelelwaniso kunye nokuphila ubomi obungenasiphelo): uloyiko lwakho lobukhulu.
Ilungile lo nto. Ndatsho. Woyika amandla akho.
"Ubuvuvu!" usenokuba uyacinga. "Ndinamabhongo! Ndineenjongo ezinkulu! Andiyoyiki impumelelo!"
Ngokwenene? Masimbe nzulu.
Ngaba wakha wanombono okrelekrele, kuphela ukuba uthethe nawe ungawusukeli? Ngaba ukhe wakujongela phantsi impumelelo yakho ukunqanda ukuma ngaphandle? Ngaba wakha wazonakalisa kanye njengokuba ubusecicini lokuphumelela okukhulu?'
Ukuba uphendule ewe kuyo nayiphi na kwezi, wamkelekile kwiqela. Uphethwe sisigulo esiqhelekileyo kodwa esingafane sixoxwe: Ukuxhalaba okukhulu.
Nantsi inyani engathandekiyo: Indawo yakho yokuthuthuzela ayikhululekanga kuba imnandi. Ikhululekile kuba ikhuselekile. Kuyaqikelelwa. Ayifuni bungangamsha kuwe.
Kodwa nanku umkhabi: Olo lonwabo luyakubulala. Ngowona mthombo wokudinwa kwakho, ukuphoxeka kwakho, ukunganeliseki kwakho.
Uxinzelelo ayilotshaba lwakho. Intuthuzelo kukuba.
Yiyeke loo nto izike ngaphakathi.
Siye samiselwa ukuba sikholelwe ukuba uxinzelelo lubi kwaye intuthuzelo ilungile. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba oko kusemva? Kuthekani ukuba uxinezeleko lokusukelana nosukelo lobuchule yiloo nto kanye ifunekayo ukuze uzive uphila?
Ngenisa ingcamango "yokuxhalaba okuvelisayo."
Ixhala elivelisayo yindawo emnandi phakathi kwentuthuzelo kunye noloyiko. Yimeko apho wolule khona kodwa ungophukanga, ucelwe umngeni kodwa ungakoyiswa. Luhlobo loxinzelelo olukwenza uzive uphila, unamandla, kwaye uzibandakanye ngokupheleleyo.
Yaye eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuhlakulela ukuxhalaba okunemveliso? Zibekele usukelo olukoyikisayo.
Wamkelekile kubuchule be "Njongo engenakwenzeka".
Nantsi indlela esebenza ngayo:
Makhe ndikunike umzekelo.
Dibana noTom, umphathi okwinqanaba eliphakathi kwinkampani yetekhnoloji. "Injongo engenakwenzeka" kaTom yayikukuhambisa iNtetho yeTED kwisithuba sonyaka, nangona wayesoyika ukuthetha esidlangalaleni.
Ngaba yayisengqiqweni loo nto? Mhlawumbi akunjalo. Kodwa nantsi into eyenzekayo:
Emva konyaka, ngaba uTom wanika iNtetho yeTED? Hayi. Kodwa wayenayo:
UTom akazange afezekise “usukelo lwakhe olungenakwenzeka,” kodwa ngokulusukela, wafikelela izinto awayengazange acinge ukuba zinokwenzeka.
Ngawo amandla eNgxaki eyimveliso. Ikutyhalela kude lee ngaphaya koko ucinga ukuba unako.
Ngoku, ndiyaziva izichaso: "Kodwa kuthekani ukuba ndiyasilela? Kuthekani ukuba ndizenza isidenge ngokwam?"
Nalu olunye utshintsho lwengqondo yakho: Qala ukubona ukusilela njengedatha, hayi ukoyiswa.
Konke "ukungaphumeleli" ekufuneni injongo yobuqili ngokwenene yingxelo exabisekileyo. Ayilophawu lokuba kufuneka uyeke; yincwadi yesikhokelo yendlela yokulungisa indlela osebenza ngayo.
Khumbula: Isichasi sempumelelo asikokusilela. Kukuma.
Ke nanku umceli mngeni wakho: Seta "iNjongo engenakwenzeka" ngoku. Into ebukhali kakhulu ikwenza ube nesicaphucaphu. Yibhale phantsi. Xelela umntu ngayo. Uze ke wenze inyathelo elinye—enoba lincinane kangakanani na—ukuze ufikelele olo sukelo namhlanje.
Wamkelekile kwi-Accelerator yoLungelelaniso.
Ukuba uyenzile ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, awufundi nje — uzibophelele ekuguquleni ubudlelwane bakho nomsebenzi, ubuchule kunye nenjongo.
Udinga ulungelelwaniso. Uyakwala ukudinwa.
Kodwa ukuzibophelela kwezi ngcamango akwanele. Ufuna amacebo-abukhali. Ulibale yonke into oyifundileyo kwiincwadi eziqhelekileyo zemveliso. Sesizakuntywila kubuchule obunokubonakala buphikisana, nokuba buphambene kancinci. Kodwa ndithembisa oku: Ziyasebenza.
Nazi izicwangciso ezintlanu ezingaqhelekanga zokwandisa ulungelelwaniso lwakho kwaye uvuselele umlilo wakho wokudala:
Ngomnyaka we-1519, uHernán Cortés wayala amadoda akhe ukuba atshise iinqanawa zabo xa befika eMexico. Umyalezo wawucacile: Akukho kubuya ngamva. Siyaphumelela okanye siyafa.
Ngoku, andikucebisi ukuba wenze nantoni na ebeka ubomi esichengeni. Kodwa ndikucela umngeni ukuba uphelise iminatha yakho yokhuseleko.
Nantsi indlela:
Umzekelo: Umrhwebi endimaziyo warhoxisa ubomi bakhe bonke kwaye wazisa wonke umntu owaziyo ukuba wayekho ekuqaliseni kwakhe. Iyingozi? Ewe. Kodwa idale inqanaba lokugxila kunye nokuzimisela angazange abe nako ngaphambili.
Ingqiqo ilula: Xa kungekho ndlela yokuphuma, ufumana indlela.
Ingqondo yakho ifana nomtya weVelcro. Okukhona unamagwegwe, kokukhona iingcinga ziya kuncamathela.
Uninzi lwabantu lusebenzisa ulwazi kwintsimi yabo. Leyo yiresiphi yokumisa. Endaweni yoko, zama oku:
Umzekelo: Umphuhlisi wesoftware endisebenze naye efunde umculo we-baroque, i-entomology, imbali yamandulo, i-origami, kunye ne-stand-up comedy kwiinyanga ezintlanu. Isiphumo? Waphuhlisa ujongano lomsebenzisi oluguquliweyo oluphefumlelwe yisakhiwo sezindlu zeenyosi kunye nexesha lokuhanjiswa kwe-comic.
Ukuyila ayikokuza neengcinga ezintsha. Imalunga nokudibanisa iingcamango ezikhoyo ngeendlela ezintsha.
Abantwana babuza imibuzo engama-300 ngosuku. Ngabantu abadala? Malunga nama-20. Silahlekelwe ngumdla wethu, kwaye ngawo, ubuchule bethu bokuyila.
Nantsi indlela yokuyibuyisela kwakhona:
Umzekelo: Umphathi wezentengiso wabuza, "Kutheni imingxunya ijikelezwe?" Ukuntywila kwakhe iveki yonke kwiziseko ezingundoqo zasezidolophini kukhokelele kwimpumelelo yolwazi malunga noyilo lwenethiwekhi, awalufaka kwiphulo elikhulu.
Imibuzo yimpendulo. Umgangatho wemibuzo yakho umisela umgangatho wobomi bakho.
Unexesha elilinganiselweyo namandla. Ukuyisebenzisa ukuba ibe mediocre kwizinto ongazikhathaleliyo kuyindlela yokupheka yokudinwa.
Zama oku endaweni yoko:
Umzekelo: I-CEO endiyiqeqeshe yaqala ngabom ukubhala ii-imeyile ezimbi kunxibelelwano olungabalulekanga. Isiphumo? Abantu bayeka ukulindela ukuba aphathe imiba emincinci, bamkhulule ukuba agxile kwisicwangciso somgangatho ophezulu.
Khumbula: Wonke "ewe" kwinto engabalulekanga ngu "hayi" kwinto ebalulekileyo.
Iingcamango ezintle aziphumi kubukrelekrele besinye. Zivela kwimidibaniso engaqhelekanga.
Nantsi indlela yokuziqhelanisa "nokwabelana ngesondo":
Umzekelo: Umqeqeshi wokomelela odityaniswe "noqeqesho lwekhefu lokuqina" kunye "namathala eencwadi." Isiphumo? Inkqubo yoguqulo oluthe cwaka yokuzilolonga ngoku esetyenziswa kwiivenkile zeencwadi kunye namathala eencwadi kwihlabathi liphela.
Khumbula: Akukho zimbono zimbi ekubambeni iingqondo. Okukhona kungenangqondo, kungcono.
Khumbula, usukelo asikokuba nemveliso ngakumbi. Kukuba uphile ngakumbi. Ukulungelelaniswa nomsebenzi wakho kangangokuba ingcamango "yokuphila ubomi obulungeleleneyo" iba yinto engenamsebenzi.
Awuwuvusi nje umlilo wakho. Uba ngumlilo.
Kulungile, lixesha lokuxhela iinkomo ezingcwele. Sithethile malunga nokuphinda uvuse umlilo wakho, ukudlula kwindawo yakho yokuthuthuzela, kunye nokulungelelanisa umsebenzi wakho kunye neyona milinganiselo yakho inzulu. Kodwa kukho indlovu kwigumbi ekufuneka sijongane nayo: intaba yeengcebiso ezilungileyo kodwa ezinokuba yingozi ezikubambezeleyo.
"Fumana umcebisi" lingcebiso du jour kwisikhokelo ngasinye sekhondo lomsebenzi. Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuba nomntu wokukukhokela kunokuba luncedo. Kodwa nantsi eyona nyaniso ingathandekiyo: Uninzi lwabacebisi lukufundisa ukuba uphumelele kwihlabathi elingasekhoyo.
Ycinge. Umcebisi wakho oqhelekileyo ngumntu "owenze" entsimini yakhe. Kodwa bakwenze bedlala ngemithetho yayizolo, kumdlalo wayizolo. Ihlabathi litshintsha ngesantya esingazange senzeke ngaphambili. Amacebo asebenze kubo anokuba yingozi kuwe.
Sikwanetyala, sikhangela abacebisi abaphumelele 1000x le nto sijonge ukuyifezekisa. Ngubani othengise inkampani exabisa i-100 yezigidi zeedola, kwiminyaka eli-10 eyadlulayo, xa sizama ukwenza i-100k yethu yokuqala.
Okubi nangakumbi, abacebisi abaninzi (hayi bonke, kodwa ndikhe ndayibona ngaphambili) ngokungazi ukuba ungabagqithi. Ayilonya; yindalo yomntu. Kodwa inokukugcina udlala kancinci.
Nantsi into omawuyenze endaweni yoko:
Khumbula: Oyena mcebisi uxabisekileyo udla ngokuba likamva lakho. Wena weminyaka emi-3-5 ukusuka ngoku ungakucebisa ukuba wenze ntoni namhlanje?
"Landela ukuthanda kwakho" kuvakala kumnandi kwi-Instagram. Enyanisweni, yiresiphi yokudideka, ukuphoxeka, kwaye ewe, ukudinwa.
Nasi isizathu:
Endaweni yokulandela ukuthanda kwakho, zama oku:
Khumbula: Musa ukubuza ukuba yintoni efunwa lihlabathi. Buza ukuba yintoni ekwenza uphile kwaye uhambe uye kuyenza. Kaloku eyona nto ifunwa lihlabathi ngabantu abaphilayo.
"Kufuneka ndifumane umsebenzi ozinzileyo." "Ndifanele ndithenge indlu." "Kufuneka nditshate nge30."
Ivakala iqhelekile? Ezi njongo "kufuneka" ngababulali abathuleyo bokulungelelanisa kunye nokuzaliseka. Zizinto ezilindelekileyo esizifake ngaphakathi kuluntu, usapho, okanye iimbono zethu ezigwenxa zokuphumelela.
Ingxaki? Ayizonjongo zakho. Ziinjongo zomnye umntu kuwe.
Nantsi indlela yokukhululeka:
Khumbula: Eyona ndawo ixabisekileyo emhlabeni ngamangcwaba. Izaliswe ziingcinga eziqaqambileyo, amaphupha angazalisekanga, kunye nesakhono esingasetyenziswayo. Konke ngenxa yokuba umntu wayesoyika kakhulu ukucela umngeni "kufuneka" ebomini babo.
Nantsi inyani enzima: Uluntu lumiselwe ukukugcina ungonwabanga.
Ycinge. Umsebenzi we-9-5, i-30-year mortgage, isicwangciso somhlalaphantsi. Zonke ziyilelwe ukukugcina ukhululekile ngokwaneleyo ukuba ungashukumisi isikhephe, kodwa akuzalisekanga kangangokuba uyeke ukuba yi-cog evelisayo kumatshini.
Ayiloyelenqe ngokwesithethe. Akukho shadowy cabal orchestrating le. Sisiphumo nje sendalo senkqubo ebeka phambili uzinzo ngaphezu kokuzaliseka, ukuqikelelwa ngaphezu kwesakhono.
Ukwahlukana kufuna inyathelo elingqongqo:
Khumbula: Indawo yakho yokuthuthuzela yindawo entle, kodwa akukho nto ikhula apho.
Umsebenzi wakho, ukuba ukhaliphe ngokwaneleyo ukuba uwamkele, ngulo:
Oku akukho malunga nempumelelo yomsebenzi kuphela. Kumalunga nokuphila ubomi obungobakho ngokwenene. Kumalunga nokulungelelaniswa nomsebenzi wakho kunye nenjongo yokuba ingcamango yokudinwa ingabinamsebenzi.
Ngoku, sifunde okuninzi namhlanje.
Masiyidibanise yonke.
Wamkelekile kumda wokugqibela wohambo lwethu kwi-paradox yokudinwa. Ukuba uyenzile ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, sele ucele umngeni kwiingqikelelo zakho malunga nomsebenzi, ubuchule kunye nempumelelo.
Ngoku, siza kuyithatha inyathelo elinye ukuya phambili. Siza kuphonononga ukuba ungayijika njani ingxaki yakho enzulu ibe lithuba lakho likhulu.
Kwintsomi yamandulo, i-phoenix yintaka ephinda ihlaziye, igqabhuke ibe ngamadangatye ukuze ivuke ihlaziywe eluthuthwini lwayo. Lixesha lokuba ubone ukudinwa kwakho ngale lens. Ayisosiphelo; kukuzalwa ngokutsha okutshisayo.
Nasi isizathu sokuba i-rock bottom isesona siseko sokudubula kwenyanga:
Nantsi indlela yokusebenzisa uMgaqo wePhoenix kubomi bakho:
Makhe sijonge eminye imizekelo yehlabathi yokwenyani yabantu abasebenzisa intlekele njengephedi yokuqalisa ngokutsha:
Ndiyazi ukuba ezi zinokubonakala ngathi zii-anecdotes, kodwa ezinye zezona nkampani zintsha kunye neembono zehlabathi zazalwa ngenxa yobunzima.
Ingxaki inyanzelisa ukusungula izinto ezintsha kuba:
Lixesha lokuba oku kusetyenziswe. Nalu umngeni wakho:
Khumbula: Umbungu awazi ukuba uza kuba libhabhathane. Into eyaziyo kukuba ayinakuhlala injalo. Thembela inkqubo. Kwamkele ukungonwabi. Ukuphumelela kwakho kulinde kwelinye icala lokudinwa kwakho.
Singene nzulu kutshintsho lomntu, sacela umngeni kubulumko obuqhelekileyo, kwaye saphonononga indlela yokujika ingxaki ibe lithuba. Ngoku, lixesha lokusondeza kwaye ubone umfanekiso omkhulu. Lixesha lokuba nombono wehlabathi apho ukudinwa kuphelelwe lixesha, kuthatyathelw’ indawo yinkcubeko yothethathethwano olushukumisayo, olunenjongo.
Uhambo lwakho olusingise ekulungelelaniseni alukho malunga nawe kuphela. Kumalunga nokudala isiphumo esiqhekezayo esinokuguqula imibutho, amashishini, kwaye ngokunokwenzeka, ihlabathi. Nantsi indlela:
Nantsi ingcamango engqongqo: Kwilizwe lolungelelwaniso olugqibeleleyo, umhlala-phantsi awubalulekanga.
Ycinge. Umhlalaphantsi usekelwe kwingcinga yokuba umsebenzi yinto oyinyamezelayo ekugqibeleni ukubaleka kuyo. Kodwa xa umsebenzi wakho uyimbonakaliso yokwenyani yokuba ungubani na, xa ikunika amandla kunokuba ikuchithe, kutheni ungafuna ukuyeka?
Oku akuthethi ukuba uzisebenzele ukufa. Kuthetha ukudala ubomi apho imida phakathi komsebenzi kunye nomdlalo, ubugcisa kunye nothando, ibe mfiliba kangangokuba ingcamango "yomhlalaphantsi" ilahlekelwa yiyo yonke intsingiselo.
Khawube nomfanekiso wehlabathi apho:
Lo ayingombono nje we-utopian. Sele isenzeka kwabo bafumene ulungelelwaniso lokwenyani. Kwaye inokuba likamva lethu sonke.
Simi kungqameko lwexesha elitsha lezoqoqosho. IXesha loShishino likuxabisile ukuthotyelwa kunye nokuphindaphinda. Ubudala bolwazi buxabise ulwazi nobuchule. Kodwa uqoqosho olukhulayo lokudala luya kuxabisa enye into ngokupheleleyo: ukulungelelaniswa, ukuzibandakanya, iingqondo zokudala.
Kolu qoqosho lutsha:
Abo balungelelanisiweyo - abaye badibanisa imilinganiselo yabo enzulu kunye nomsebenzi wabo - baya kuphumelela kweli hlabathi elitsha. Iya kuba ngabo benza amashishini amatsha, basombulule iingxaki zehlabathi, kwaye baqhube inkqubela yabantu.
Khawube nomfanekiso wehlabathi apho:
Le asiyongcinga nje yokuziva wonwabile. Sisinyanzelo sezoqoqosho nezentlalo. Kwihlabathi elijongene nemiceli mngeni engazange ibonwe ngaphambili, asinakukwazi ukuba neengqondo zethu zisebenza kuyo nantoni na engaphantsi kwamandla azo apheleleyo, alungeleleneyo.
Ke, ungena phi kuyo yonke le nto? Awungomntu obukeleyo nje kolu tshintsho. Uyi-catalyst. Inyathelo ngalinye olithabathayo ekulungelelaniseni abantu, bonke ubulumko obuqhelekileyo obucela umngeni kubo, yonke ingxaki oyiguqulayo ibe lithuba - konke kunegalelo kolu tshintsho lukhulu.
Nantsi into onokuyenza:
Xa sigqiba olu hambo, ndinomngeni omnye wokugqibela kuwe:
Yiba nomfanekiso-ngqondweni wakho uneminyaka eli-10 ukususela ngoku, ulungelelaniswe ngokupheleleyo, usebenza ngamandla akho aphezulu. Bunjani ubomi bakho? Yintoni impembelelo oyenzayo? Uziva njani xa uvuka ntsasa nganye?
Ngoku, bhala ileta evela kweli xesha elizayo kwisiqu sakho ngoku. Baza kukunika liphi icebiso? Baza kukubongoza ukuba wenze ntoni, utshintshe, ukholelwe?
Lo ayingomsebenzi wokucinga nje. Yimaphu yendlela esuka koyena ulungelelanisiweyo ukukukhokelela phambili.
Khumbula, uhambo lokulungelelanisa alusoloko lulula. Kuya kubakho ukusilela, amathandabuzo, kunye namaxesha obunzima. Kodwa kwelinye icala lokungonwabi bubomi bamandla angazange abonwe ngaphambili, ubuchule bokuyila, kunye nefuthe.
Awulwi nje nokudinwa. Awufuni nje impumelelo. Uyinxalenye yoguqulo-mzabalazo osisiseko sokucinga kwakhona ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuphila, ukusebenza, kunye nokuba negalelo kwihlabathi.
Ikamva lelabo balungelelanisiweyo. Kwaye elokamva liqala ngawe namhlanje.
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