Goal setting is the seemingly simple process of committing yourself to a milestone in future. This is important both in professional and personal fronts.
What we will see in this article:
Defining Goals and Goal Setting
Why don’t most people set goal?
Why Goals fail
Why Set Goals?
Types of Goals
Understanding nuances of effective goal setting
Facts of Goal Setting
Defining a goal means having a clear end point in mind. The goal is the outcome of the effort that you make, whereas goal setting is the process of deciding how you’re going to achieve your desired result.
Human beings have an inherent trait of being wary of changes. This is seen everywhere. We tend to be pessimistic towards doing something differently. For example, try convincing your family that you want to leave your salaried job to start your own business; an all-supporting family will suddenly become pessimistic.
This is somewhat related to the previous point. We are afraid of changes. And afraid to fail in the thing that we are trying to change. This is mainly because we are afraid of "what others will think?!!”
If we do not have a goal, we will not reach anywhere. Whatever it is, have a destination in mind and work towards reaching that destination. This can be anything: going for a dream vacation, a promotion at work, completing a certification, learning a new language, a dance performance on stage. Anything.
Many may very well have a goal but may not know how to attain it.
People who are in their mid 30s usually have this problem of not having an ambition. This is partially because of the Dunning-Kruger Effect. They hit a plateau of success or a false feeling of fulfillment. That is the time when most lose their ambitions and find a comfort zone in what they are doing.
This is the exact time for finding a new goal.
Again, people who think they aren’t as good as their peers stop trying new things. One has to introspect, and if needed, forcefully realize that everyone has some or another superpower. We are all created from the same stuff: "Star dust.”
This is a by-product of fear of failure. The thought of what will happen if I fail. Fact is, the world is not revolving around you. People have a thousand things to worry about. No one cares what you do. So, forget about failure and rejection. Put the boots on and start running.
Ok, you set the goal. But it failed. Most of the time, goals fail because of silly mistakes we do.
Try writing down what you want to achieve. Not on a paper. Rather, you have to write it on a chart paper and stick it to the wall, where you and others can see. Every time you see the writing, it should keep reminding you of the goal.
Goals should be rewarding. You should not set yourself a goal which will put you in misery. If you are working a low-paying job, don’t set your goal to take a loan and buy a Mercedes car. It will put you into misery. Rather your goal should be to earn enough money to buy a luxury car.
Reward - Not misery. This is very important.
You have to set a realistic goal. You may want to go onsite. That may be realistic. But going to moon might not be. Choose your game wisely. Have realistic and achievable goals. That will be rewarding too.
Do not be adamant on your goal. Sometimes, your goal may become obsolete. For example, in late 1990s, buying a pager was a dream for many. But in early 2000s, pagers became obsolete and cell phones took over. If you had a goal to buy a pager, it would be of no use in 2000s. Point is, if your goal becomes obsolete, evolve it. Change your goal. As wise men say - Change or Perish.
You need to be accountable for your success and failure. We spoke about fear of failure and fear of rejections in previous section. Make it to your use. When setting a goal, let your inner circle of people (those who won't judge you) know that your goal is X and prove to the inner circle that you are serious about your goal.
Always have a timeline for your goal. If you do not have a plan, you do not have a goal. Failing to plan is planning to fail.
You need to set goals for:
Your goals should be classified into three (or as you wish - but consider this model).
The trick is you should do the goal setting in the reverse order. You should know the big picture. Plan smaller achievable goals which incrementally will contribute to achieve your long-term goals.
First you need to decide what you want to achieve. Then, you need to identify how to achieve the goal.
Here are a few tips to set effective goals:
The word SMARTER is the key here. SMARTER means:
Write your goal and make it visible for yourself and it should keep on reminding you about your goal.
Ask three questions-
If you have satisfying answers for the above questions, chase your goal.
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